The Importance of Teaching Masturbation to Your Kids
So, you might have no kids, yet you are still reading this article which to us clearly indicates that you are interested in masturbation. Who isn’t? Here we will tell you what your school teachers should have told you at some point, but was too shy or uptight to say. This article concerns sexual health, a topic that often times seems to be neglected by educators or misrepresented in the mainstream media.
Before we get the bible thumpers on our back let us clarify here that we are not merely talking about genital stimulation among young boys in their adolescence. We are looking at sexuality in a holistic sense, its perception and development through the lifespan. When we mention masturbation we again imply wider stimulation of erogenous zones (genital organs are just one of them).
Very little constructive educational dialogue has been dedicated to understanding the aspects of pleasure and desire (and pleasing one self involves just that). As it still largely remains a taboo subject, people are left to guess and figure out things on their own when it comes to understanding the body. Think of how you came to discover it. It probably wasn’t Mrs. Jones or your mum explaining why it feels nice when you touch yourself, giving pointers on what you could try, let alone ask you to go to your room and explore your body a little. Most likely it happened just before you hit full-on puberty, rubbing against the pillow in the middle of the night with an ear out for anybody who might be awake at the odd hour. In all likelihood you didn’t tell anybody who would have been able to give you any positive reinforcement or informed constructive advice.
When it comes to sexual education at school we hear the tail end of it. What is considered a more or less comprehensive sexual education at schools concerns the proper use of condoms and other contraception, an array of all sexually transmitted diseases (STDs) one could possibly get and to top it off they talk about family planning, if you’re lucky. If you’re not, you’re probably stuck listening to an ineffective speech on how abstinence is the only way to prevent STDs and pregnancy. While this would technically be at least part true, is about as helpful as being told the only way not to get food poisoning or an upset stomach, is to not eat food.
Where do you start?
It starts from the misleading premise that children are asexual beings. Stemming from genuine concern for children, yet with tainted perception of sexuality (”sex as evil/dangerous/physically and emotionally harming/only for adults”) and with the “help” of the legal system, much of society has completely convinced themselves that people below a certain age lack the ability to holistically understand ones own body in relation to sexuality. The first and arguably most important sexual partner (ourselves) has been silenced and eliminated from sex education. Inability to provide adequate materials for learning of masturbation have long term and at times life lasting impending impacts on sexual behavior.
The point can not be stressed enough - a person is their own first and most important sexual partner. There is a school of thought in sexual philosophy that adds “only” to the above description, nothing perverted or abnormal mind you, just a matter of perception and approach. Another important fact to keep in mind, is that a number of sexual behaviors in humans start even before birth. Recent developments in technology have allowed doctors to follow the development of the child in its mother’s womb very closely. One of the things they discovered was that male fetuses are capable of having an erection and are not reluctant to touch it.
Lets not beat around the bush, but get to the point, below are arguments why as a parent your child’s bodily explorations and curiosities (plainly masturbation) should be encouraged. If you disagree with any of the points made below, we would love to hear from you why (with alternative suggestions, please).
1. It’s the safest sexual experience one can possibly have.
It might seem as plain common sense, but how often have you thought about it (or heard your teacher say that in a sex-ed class). Like it or not sex is a very strong drive, and no amount of convincing, threats or scare tactics can completely get it out of the system. If not addressed the issue could be profoundly damaging to an individual. After all, Norman Bates wasn’t a psycho because his mother had a reasonable outlook on sex.
Think about it, when engaging in a sexual activity with oneself , the person is highly unlikely to catch any STD (depending on your hand washing habits), and it is physically impossible to get pregnant or impregnate someone. There is no need to use condoms or contraception. Because it’s a solitary action, there is no necessity to compromise or do something that does not feel good or right. Nobody is likely to harm your child or cause any emotional damage. The issue is addressed and everybody is safe and happy.
2. In the adult life a healthy approach to sexuality that has been instilled since the childhood can dramatically reduce a large number of health problems and sexual dysfunctions.
Open attitude
To gain a wider perspective, let us go back in time a little bit. Consider the case of hysteria - a disorder not exclusively linked to sexual dysfunction, diagnosed primarily in women.
Starting from the mid 19th century this condition was treated by massaging the genitalia and pelvic area of the patient, bringing her to a climax that stimulated blood flow in the body (today we simply call it an orgasm). By the end of that century, the advent of electricity allowed the construction of a machine (basically an old school vibrator) that sent strong localized vibrations that effectively relieved the symptoms of great amount of women diagnosed with hysteria. Many poor souls were headed for asylums if they hadn’t been treated with something modern women have access to everyday, sometimes several times a day. I’m sure almost anyone would take a day of sexual stimulation over a Victorian mental asylum.
Thankfully the Victorian era is over, although sexually repressive mindsets persist in many places. With more liberal attitudes towards the body, its needs and expressions, more women have gained happier, healthier lives compared to their counterparts back in the 19th century. Of course one does not need a machine to satisfy oneself, in fact more skillful practitioners don’t even need the assistance of limbs let alone a doctor, its all about brain activity, muscle contraction and lots of practice. How’s that for a goal to aspire to?
Dysfunctions that stem from conditioning
Continuing on the help of hands and other limbs, when it comes to men there are plenty of dysfunctions that stem from wrong ways of masturbation. When experiencing erectile dysfunction (the inability to get it up) first thing is to do a full medical check-up, the causes might lie with internal organs such as the kidneys, liver, prostate etc. If the tests come back clean then its time to go and see a sexual therapist. The therapist will need to know every detail about a patient’s sex life. Important data points includes ways of masturbation, when, in what manner, how many times per day/week, under what conditions, what pornographic materials are used, attitudes towards sex and masturbation in the family, personal attitude. When, how often and under what circumstances does the dysfunction occur - the professional will go digging deep into the past and present.
The issue often times is that by conditioning oneself to a tube of lube, box of tissues and a computer screen the brain (that sends signals to the rest of the body) might not recognize a flesh and blood woman as a cue to pop an erection. Through therapy the patient eventually expands his excitement and arousal data points. The root of the problem often lies with feeling of shame and guilt that is associated with sexuality and its expressions.
Similarly a lot of women are incapable of reaching climax for the same reasons. An important factor in all of this is the attitude towards sexuality and sexual expression. A lot of times people are incapable of talking about issues simply because they have never been taught how to in an adult manner. In this case family and upbringing plays a crucial role.

Comprehensive material on masturbation education would simply advise the learner to make the experience resemble sexual intercourse as much as possible. A room with pleasant light, comfortable temperature, creating ambiance through music, scented candles or anything else that tickles your pickle. A relaxed state of mind and naked body are highly encouraged. Follow through all four phases of the sexual response cycle: excitement, plateau, orgasm, resolution. It’s as simple as that.
3. Lack of Body Awareness and Its Image in the Media
Not the most obvious reason, yet valid nonetheless. Attitude towards sexuality directly correlates to the body image and perception. While casually flipping through an average Hong Kong tabloid, one cannot help but to notice the amount of ads that target young women, offering them variety of slimming programs. It is pointless to blame media for body image distortion that it presents and trends that it supports, after all the (media) market follows a supply and demand curve and everyone needs to make a living. What now seems as a deeply ingrained notion - that a certain body type is perceived as sexually appealing - makes little sense, given that sexual appeal is a sensation and not a body type or part thereof. Because there has been little attention to appreciating your own body from very young, herds of women and men falsely believe that attaining a certain body type would be sexually gratifying.
After staying with us thus far, you might be burning with curiosity, on what is the least awkward way one can teach healthy masturbation habits to their children. Contrary to what many of you might think, as a parent you don’t need to necessarily demonstrate, your kids wont understand it as they haven’t reached your level of sexual development yet. What is essential to do however is to keep an open conversation, laying the foundation that interaction with ones own body is good and healthy. When and where appropriate, of course. It should not be shamed, hushed away or given a judgmental look or a comment. However embarrassing a question might be for you a child is simply curious and deserves the most sincere, informative and well meaning answer. The key is not to set the list of rights and wrongs, but instead from day one provide the individual with a safe environment where exploration and play are supported, self-love is encouraged, leaving no subject that can not be discussed. Do ask questions. It is important to make sure that terms are well defined and understood. Given that the trust foundation is there you will be the first one to know of any possible plans of delinquencies that the media and other “educators” warn us about. You will also be ensuring that in their adult years, your offspring will be more informed and confident about his/her preferences, avoiding a full list of sexual, relationship and self image issues and disorders.
You might have a different view, experience or belief and that is entirely your prerogative. We do not mean to offend anybody, but feel obliged to share something that is not widely known or accepted yet could prove enormously valuable and beneficial in the long run. Health (in the case of this article on sexual health) is often thought of only when an issue arises. Just as brushing your teeth everyday might save you a small fortune on dental care bills down the road, a better understanding of your body will help you conserve on medical and therapy fees. Thus before you even think of initiating the talk about the birds and the bees, remember to ensure that your child is familiar with their own bee’s knees.

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